How to Have a Happy Marriage

It is a sad thing to realize that fully 50% of marriages in America end in divorce. We can blame the “culture of me” that tells us our happiness is what matters, and if we aren’t happy, we should move on and find something that will make us happier. But there’s a problem with that.

Deep within us, we have a longing. It is a yearning to be fulfilled, and every human alive has that desire. Unfortunately, we too often think that another person is the answer to that need. And so we try to satisfy it by being with someone else. Unfortunately, no one on earth can completely fill that empty spot in your soul, and asking him or her to do that is not only unfair, it is not even possible.

Genesis 2:24 tells us, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” This verse reminds us that when a man and a woman are married, they become one flesh. What it doesn’t say is that, though physically complementing each other, their spirits still need one thing more. They need God.

When married couples look to God for their happiness instead of trying to find it in each other, they discover that their happiness extends to the marriage relationship.

They end up wanting to serve each other, and in doing so, they find joy. Here are some tips to help you find happiness in your marriage.

Make Christ the center of your home. “Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it.” Psalms 127:1. “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:6. “And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:7.
Attend to your prayer life together. “Pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Matthew 26:41. “Pray one for another.” James 5:16. “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally.” James 1:5.
Learn God’s definition of love and live it. Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Keep your love life fresh. “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8. “Her husband … praiseth her.” Proverbs 31:28. “She that is married careth … how she may please her husband.” 1 Corinthians 7:34. “Be kindly affectioned one to another … in honour preferring one another.” Romans 12:10.

If you follow those four tips, you will find that your marriage can be a happy one, regardless of the circumstances in which you find yourself. A couple committed first to God and then to each other cannot help but endure!

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